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Studies show that people eventually conform to expectations and perceptions - both those of others, and those from the self. If I perceive myself as smart, I am more likely to think about decisions before I make them than if I think of myself as impulsive. If I think of someone else as smart, the subtle changes in my interactions with them will lead them to work harder to live up to that positive impression.

In an effort towards self-improvement, I want to expect good things of myself in hopes that this positive narrative will bolster efforts at positive action. At the same time, I don't want to have a grossly inaccurate view of myself. Highly inaccurate self-perception seems like a way to mislead others, and a way to get myself in far over my head on a regular basis.

Similarly, in an effort to evoke positive action from others, I'd like to perceive others as trustworthy and competent. Studies show that high regard from people one spends time with causes people to act more in accordance with that high regard. At the same time, having a much higher opinion of others than they objectively warrant would seem like it would lead to frequent massive disappointment. (Btw, this isn't regarding anyone in specific, more thinking about the general way I interact with others.)

How can I trick myself into thinking much better of myself and others in an effort to evoke and invoke positive characteristics, while avoiding the depth of inaccurate judgment that leads to disappointment and failure?

Date: 2010-07-15 04:44 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] anaisdjuna.livejournal.com

Affirm the good things you do and think while keeping an eye towards checking up on yourself and asking questions of yourself with regard to your thoughts and actions and how they pertain to your values.

Date: 2010-07-15 06:14 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] thecolorblue.livejournal.com
i think one of the best and most effective ways to do this is to fight the negative thought patterns we so often have of ourselves and others. for me, i have found it useful to make a list every day of five good things about myself, or things i did that day that i was proud of or enjoyed. you can do the same thing for other people in your life. do it every day to encourage yourself to think in positive terms and fight the critical thoughts we're all prone to.

meep!

Date: 2010-07-15 08:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nancyblue.livejournal.com
I like that you have asked these questions. I shall ponder them.

Date: 2010-07-15 01:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] iki-maska.livejournal.com
There's a few clever people who I admire. They are smart and positive people. They always approach people and problems in good faith. They never assume a problem is hard. They always assume people are honorable.

If faced with a gnarly problem, I pretend to think about the problem like these people would think about it. Bottom line is I think everyone is clever, it's just that so few of us trust our own abilities.

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